Its amazing how you think things have changed only to realize you were quite wrong. Thanks to the latest time wasting tactic a.k.a facebook, these wedding photos keep popping right up, and i realized that the ubiquitous most awkward piece of jewellery that we still find is the vaddanam. Now, i am not entirely against wearing one . But honestly, very few people in those photos have a waist which can be shown off. And i absolutely believe in wearing something after making sure it looks good on you. That totally includes moms as well. Aunty , please do all of us a favor and let us enjoy the photos thoroughly! While we adore you, your selfless love and your efforts in making everyone feel like they are looked after, we certainly dont want to start computing the circumference of the ornament. While we are at this, lets also make sure that the bride doesnt look like a female version of the Oscar statuette. Seriously, what with kancheevarams that are completely covered by gold and zaris competing in "how wide is yours" contests, I pity the purse that pays for this and the girl that has to pretend that she will wear it again for sure.
Agreed, we dont go the dowry way anymore but the pressures are still there. About time we realised that we dont have to live according to what other people say. I am surprised at how many of my friends complied and at how many comments i got about how simple some of my saris were. For one thing, i think donating that money to charity makes much more sense than looking like an oscar stauette that is also a mannequin for a jewellery store. That actually makes me think - A woman painted in gold wearing just the thick heavy gold jewellery covering her bust would make a seductive ad. Wait, thats the sort of stuff kids cannot see.
Back to my point.Lets make weddings what they are - about the two people who are going to be together. Besides all that stuff is going to come right off anyways, isnt it? ;)
